“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

Recently, A friend of mine has been discriminated against by another friend. Everyone has a right to their opinion and this is mine.

To Adam,

It is not right to have to fight for love. It is not right to be discriminated against because of your sexual orientation. It is not right to suffer through a constant battle against people with a negative view against LGBT rights. I am so sorry that you must endure this heart ache. I am so sorry we live in a world where people put gender into a tidy little box of; boy or girl, pink or blue, black or white, or good or bad. It is a lie.

To many people do not have the heart to see that homosexuality / all LGBT, has been around long before America came of age. America is a toddler. A tantrum throwing, whining, judging, and confused little toddler, just trying to make its place in the world. America is about 200 years old… but the human civilization is thousands of years old.

I believe everyone grows into their own views through nature and nurture. Ethnocentrism (is judging another culture solely by the values and standards of one’s own culture.) being one of the most dangerous views that we may not be able to truly step back and see another’s views. I believe there are levels of ethnocentrism, such as a American culture, inner family culture, a city culture, and more powerful than all the individual values and morals. Some people have a terrible moral compass. It really is an atrocity. It is a inability to speak with true reflection, assessment, and compassion for another human being. Some do not contemplate the meaning of the words they so commonly use. The phrase “sticks and stones” could not be more wrong. I want you to know that I stand behind you. I believe in you and I am proud of you. I want you to know that there will be a day when this battle will be over, and I truly believe this.

 “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”  – Martin Luther King Jr.
We must take a lesson from history; that marriage has not always been this “perfect” union we think of today. It is a fairly new revelation. People do not want to move away from their comfort zones, to learn and to love the differences in every individual. I strive to put love first in all my actions; for my family, friends, and complete strangers.
Below is one of my favorite Roman love stories.
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Hadrian’s Story of true love.

“Roman Emperor, Hadrian, was in a homosexual relationship with a young Greek male called Antinous. Homosexual relationships were not considered unusual in ancient Rome. A Roman man was free to choose sexual partners of either gender and there is no word for homosexuality in Latin.” It is thought that on a trip down the Nile, that the Antinous drowned to save Hadrian. The intensity with which Hadrian loved and mourned Antinous’ premature death was without precedent. He began architectural memorials, created numerous ceremonies and festivals in his name, and named cities after him. Every sculpture from the time after Antinous death was sculpted in his image.”

Love does not know gender, nor color, nor disability, nor any inequality.

And to those with a religious argument:

25And one day an authority on the law stood up to put Jesus to the test. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to receive eternal life?”

26What is written in the Law?” Jesus replied. “How do you understand it?” 27He answered, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul. Love him with all your strength and with all your mind.’(Deuteronomy 6:5) And, ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’ ” 28“You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do that, and you will live.”.

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COUPON KRAZEEE : First Mission ended in a $6.28 for 13 products!

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We… ok ok… I recently decided that I need to take coupons seriously so that we can save a bit of money and stock up on things during sales! So this has been my first and very very anxious attempt to use my coupons and spend as little money as possible! I used many different websites, mainly the KCL ( Krazy Coupon Lady) and its pretty amazing the network of people sharing these deals that really help everyone!!

I scored:

3 Boxes General Mills cereal- Lucky Charms, Cocoa Puffs, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch

4 Axe Deodorants

2/2 liters of Dr Pepper TEN

1 9 fl oz Dawn

1 Psoriasis tar gel (my main source of savings)

2 Yes to Cucumber facial wipes (10 count)

All for $6.28!!

Casualties of the War between Insurance Companies and Hospitals : Our Baby’s Unnecessary Surgery

Recently, Lincoln has become the victim of greedy politic disputes regarding our insurance companies and hospitals. Neglecting to come to a agreement, September 1st St Elizabeth Hospital and Blue Cross Blue Shield are no longer in network with each other. creating a overwhelming affect on who may get care, but chooses not to, but those who must seek care elsewhere, and only other hospital in Lincoln, Bryan Health. The already busy and overworked staff, is now flooded with patients and over occupancy at all times. which in turn effects the quality of patient care.

Our family has always gone to Bryan, so the disagreements didn’t bother us. Untill Saturday September 20th. Our son had a very swollen left testicle. My dad had been working security at Bryan over the weekends, and brought to our our attention that Bryan had a two to three hour emergency room wait!! We were thinking of going to St. Elizabeth’s but due to our insurance, we chose to go to Bryan.

Our son, Sebastian, is only three months old. We took him to Bryan urgent care, and they immediately sent us to the E.R because his oxygen was only between 80-83, which is very low.

My dad had a in with the hospital from helping with security so we were taken right into a room. Sebastian cough and oxygen checked out fine with the nurses and next we were to see a doctor.  A doctor came in felt his scrotum for maybe a minute, and diagnoses “a hernia”. I was shocked. I had been feeling and checking his scrotum for such a thing since he was born due to a family history of hernias! Convinced the doctor began to physical explain the process of hernia’s occurring. (It was a strange sight) He proceeded to try to push the hernia back up or in or whatever he was attempting.

We asked him what was next. He said to find a surgeon if we knew one. which we didn’t, so he said he would have the on-call surgeon come talk to us. The surgeon came in, and also attempted to push the hernia back in, and feel his scrotum. We told him there was no pain associated with the bulge. We told him that it seemed to have gotten bigger just in the last 24 hours.  Not once did he mention a hydrocele, which is similar to a hernia, but it would not require a major hernia surgery, and most likely no surgery at all.

They took him into surgery, and almost an hour later we got a call saying ” they were trying hard to get the iv in.”   A HOUR TO GET THE IV IN? Finally they performed a cut down on his foot. Which they must have done wrong because it fell out a hall hour after surgery.  Forty -five minutes after this call, they came and got us to take us to Sebastian. The surgeon explained they had only found a hydrocele. He said he had performed a hernia repair, and drained the hydrocele. But he never had an actual hernia.

SO… HE DIDNT NEED SURGERY AT ALL!?

WHY WASNT THIS RULED OUT?

WHAT? The we proceeded to walk into the recovery room,and met eyes with a strange teenage boy in street clothes. My whole body wanted to scream ” WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?!!” but I heard Sebastian crying so I went to him and took him from the nurse. Sebastian was screaming in pain and anxiety. The told us to get him medicine because his would ware off in a half hour.

When we got to the pediatric floor, it was very apparent we were very upset.  Every single nurse there seemed rude, neglectful, and unfriendly. We asked for his medicine, and got it an hour later…

I asked who that the strange kid was, and the only reply we have gotten was it was a nurses son dropping off keys. I asked the surgeon if he new him the next day, which he said no, and preceded to ask ” why were upset by it?” WHAT?? Why are we upset about a strange teenage kid in the recovery room right after our sons surgery!??? Because he IS OUR THREE MONTH OLD SON WHO JUST HAD SURGERY. Do we need another reason? its the most inappropriate thing that has ever happen to us in a medical field, and I’m sure some sort of privacy violation, but to ask why we were upset is just outragous. The worry of the last two hour over a surgery our son didn’t even need and then to ask why we are upset over a stranger in a sterile key-entry environment that we couldn’t go into until let in, and this kid is in there, before us?? I am still fuming from this.

Every time a nurse would wander in our room and just stare at us or say nothing. Which I know from experience it is part of training and common courtesy to state who you are when entering a hospital room.

In almost every web article, website, or medical official we talk to asks if our doctor performed a ultra-sound. well, NO he didn’t. they just jumped right into surgery. The incision is at least two inches long. Also the inch cut down into his ankle for the IV. The MD pediatrician from our office came into the hospital to see Sebastian as well, and said in all his twenty-five years only one hydrocele surgery,

The problem is Bryan is overwork. All of these employees are rushing through patients, and misdiagnosing and treating patients with such disrespect. Bryan is now offering nurses $500 gift cards to work a extra shift.

We feel robbed, mistreated, and after filing many complaints, and talking with several different people at the hospital, we have gotten no apologies, and no resolution.

In conclusion, please help yourself and your family to slow down the pace of these rushed overworked medical venues.

Our advice to other parents is: Ask questions, you may think you have asked enough… ASK MORE!!

Question everything!! Is there anything else these symptoms could mean?

Are there other options for treatment?

Slow down. Slow down these doctors who fly through the office, and you can barely tell if they are really hearing your questions, ask again if you don’t understand. If your still wondering what is really going on, because the doctors just look at you crazy when you question them.

GET A SECOND OPINION!!!!!