“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

Recently, A friend of mine has been discriminated against by another friend. Everyone has a right to their opinion and this is mine.

To Adam,

It is not right to have to fight for love. It is not right to be discriminated against because of your sexual orientation. It is not right to suffer through a constant battle against people with a negative view against LGBT rights. I am so sorry that you must endure this heart ache. I am so sorry we live in a world where people put gender into a tidy little box of; boy or girl, pink or blue, black or white, or good or bad. It is a lie.

To many people do not have the heart to see that homosexuality / all LGBT, has been around long before America came of age. America is a toddler. A tantrum throwing, whining, judging, and confused little toddler, just trying to make its place in the world. America is about 200 years old… but the human civilization is thousands of years old.

I believe everyone grows into their own views through nature and nurture. Ethnocentrism (is judging another culture solely by the values and standards of one’s own culture.) being one of the most dangerous views that we may not be able to truly step back and see another’s views. I believe there are levels of ethnocentrism, such as a American culture, inner family culture, a city culture, and more powerful than all the individual values and morals. Some people have a terrible moral compass. It really is an atrocity. It is a inability to speak with true reflection, assessment, and compassion for another human being. Some do not contemplate the meaning of the words they so commonly use. The phrase “sticks and stones” could not be more wrong. I want you to know that I stand behind you. I believe in you and I am proud of you. I want you to know that there will be a day when this battle will be over, and I truly believe this.

 “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”  – Martin Luther King Jr.
We must take a lesson from history; that marriage has not always been this “perfect” union we think of today. It is a fairly new revelation. People do not want to move away from their comfort zones, to learn and to love the differences in every individual. I strive to put love first in all my actions; for my family, friends, and complete strangers.
Below is one of my favorite Roman love stories.
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Hadrian’s Story of true love.

“Roman Emperor, Hadrian, was in a homosexual relationship with a young Greek male called Antinous. Homosexual relationships were not considered unusual in ancient Rome. A Roman man was free to choose sexual partners of either gender and there is no word for homosexuality in Latin.” It is thought that on a trip down the Nile, that the Antinous drowned to save Hadrian. The intensity with which Hadrian loved and mourned Antinous’ premature death was without precedent. He began architectural memorials, created numerous ceremonies and festivals in his name, and named cities after him. Every sculpture from the time after Antinous death was sculpted in his image.”

Love does not know gender, nor color, nor disability, nor any inequality.

And to those with a religious argument:

25And one day an authority on the law stood up to put Jesus to the test. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to receive eternal life?”

26What is written in the Law?” Jesus replied. “How do you understand it?” 27He answered, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul. Love him with all your strength and with all your mind.’(Deuteronomy 6:5) And, ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’ ” 28“You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do that, and you will live.”.

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COUPON KRAZEEE : First Mission ended in a $6.28 for 13 products!

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We… ok ok… I recently decided that I need to take coupons seriously so that we can save a bit of money and stock up on things during sales! So this has been my first and very very anxious attempt to use my coupons and spend as little money as possible! I used many different websites, mainly the KCL ( Krazy Coupon Lady) and its pretty amazing the network of people sharing these deals that really help everyone!!

I scored:

3 Boxes General Mills cereal- Lucky Charms, Cocoa Puffs, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch

4 Axe Deodorants

2/2 liters of Dr Pepper TEN

1 9 fl oz Dawn

1 Psoriasis tar gel (my main source of savings)

2 Yes to Cucumber facial wipes (10 count)

All for $6.28!!

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New to Two

New to Two: holds a very special place in my heart for two reasons. My daughter turned two this year and we welcomed our second child into the world. One child is busy. But TWO is triple the busy.

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I had found a perfect rhythm with Luna Belle, we had a great schedule and spent a lot of time together before Sebastian came. But Sebastian was induced four weeks early, because I had a very low platelets (which can cause excessive bleeding during birth).  I was in tears when I found out that I was going to be induced because I wanted to stay at home as long as possibly to increase comfort. I was crying thinking of the possibility my son could be premature and have to go to the NICU.  But the birth went quickly and smoothly. Sebastian was born May 31, and was 7’6. Luna Belle’s birth was a bit rocky since she had trouble breathing for three minutes, but Sebastian came out wailing which was a huge relief of anticipation! I feel so lucky to be able to tell this story, and hold my children everyday. I cherish every moment I spend with them (the good and the bad).

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I didn’t know what to expect when Sebastian was born. I had no idea how Luna would react and I was afraid that she would feel second best to the small baby now stealing mommy’s attention. When we first came home from the hospital she had stayed at my in-laws for the previous two days and was so confused. I stayed the hospital less than 24 hours after Sebastian was born just so we could be home with Luna. She was pretty upset for the first hour we were home, and she literally cried the first fifteen minutes. But she quickly turned into my biggest helper. I indulged her cries for attention when she wanted to be held like a baby, I held her like a baby. I don’t like to use the word “big” sister, I just called her the best sister! I want her to feel equally important to Sebastian, and not feel it is her responsibility to care for him but jump for joy when she does get to help with a diaper change or picking his clothes for the day. She loves her brother and I am so excited to see the bond they form. I want to nurture their relationship and help them find that having a sibling is one of the greatest gifts there is.

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My daughter, Luna Belle, just turned two on June 22nd. She had a great party with her friends and family, and got lots of gifts to match her spicy personality some sunglasses, bubbles, and a sweet bright red tricycle.

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I knew the day would come when I would look at my darling baby girl and no longer saw a baby but a little girl. Whelp, that day has come.

The past few months her vocabulary has gone from ten words to any word I say… she repeats.. five times. She now knows the location of popsicles, markers, and all other items I make an attempt to keep hidden. She remembers where I put my car keys, shoes, and always has her eye on my cell phone for a quick snatch anytime my attention waivers. Since her enlightenment of the world has bloomed so has her understanding of the things she can do, like climb, jump, somersaults, unlocking doors, locking doors, and most of all the “snack cabinet”

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Her view of the world is so beautiful and always keeps me laughing. A frequent phrases is “Mommy! WOOK!” Needless to say there is never a dull moment in this house, especially since our son was born two months ago. Luna now has the task of “big” sister. She loves her brother, and always asking ” Bash hold me?” but also struggling with her own need for attention.

The wonderful world of being a Toddler is always joked about, the terrible twos. The more Luna learns the more she battles against me. “One more” is after every sentence, and she doesn’t take no for an answer. So my new strategy is to give her two options of my choosing. Read books or go to bed? Take a bath or take a nap? Go inside or Sit and eat your lunch at your picnic table? It works for the most part, but we are struggling with nap, mealtimes, and bedtime. She has so much energy that she never wants to sleep or eat. Which are two things toddlers in my opinions need the most!

I have a feeling this battle has just begun. Watching her grow and learn is like seeing the world for the first time. My heart fills with joy when her response to things are “ohh WOW”. Her expressions are priceless and always changing, and in the past month knows most of the ABC’s, colors, can count, tell her full name and love it ” WUNA” still counts right? How amazing it is to view the world through your child’s eyes.

To Luna Belle: I love you. My heart is forever yours, no matter your age.

 

Casualties of the War between Insurance Companies and Hospitals : Our Baby’s Unnecessary Surgery

Recently, Lincoln has become the victim of greedy politic disputes regarding our insurance companies and hospitals. Neglecting to come to a agreement, September 1st St Elizabeth Hospital and Blue Cross Blue Shield are no longer in network with each other. creating a overwhelming affect on who may get care, but chooses not to, but those who must seek care elsewhere, and only other hospital in Lincoln, Bryan Health. The already busy and overworked staff, is now flooded with patients and over occupancy at all times. which in turn effects the quality of patient care.

Our family has always gone to Bryan, so the disagreements didn’t bother us. Untill Saturday September 20th. Our son had a very swollen left testicle. My dad had been working security at Bryan over the weekends, and brought to our our attention that Bryan had a two to three hour emergency room wait!! We were thinking of going to St. Elizabeth’s but due to our insurance, we chose to go to Bryan.

Our son, Sebastian, is only three months old. We took him to Bryan urgent care, and they immediately sent us to the E.R because his oxygen was only between 80-83, which is very low.

My dad had a in with the hospital from helping with security so we were taken right into a room. Sebastian cough and oxygen checked out fine with the nurses and next we were to see a doctor.  A doctor came in felt his scrotum for maybe a minute, and diagnoses “a hernia”. I was shocked. I had been feeling and checking his scrotum for such a thing since he was born due to a family history of hernias! Convinced the doctor began to physical explain the process of hernia’s occurring. (It was a strange sight) He proceeded to try to push the hernia back up or in or whatever he was attempting.

We asked him what was next. He said to find a surgeon if we knew one. which we didn’t, so he said he would have the on-call surgeon come talk to us. The surgeon came in, and also attempted to push the hernia back in, and feel his scrotum. We told him there was no pain associated with the bulge. We told him that it seemed to have gotten bigger just in the last 24 hours.  Not once did he mention a hydrocele, which is similar to a hernia, but it would not require a major hernia surgery, and most likely no surgery at all.

They took him into surgery, and almost an hour later we got a call saying ” they were trying hard to get the iv in.”   A HOUR TO GET THE IV IN? Finally they performed a cut down on his foot. Which they must have done wrong because it fell out a hall hour after surgery.  Forty -five minutes after this call, they came and got us to take us to Sebastian. The surgeon explained they had only found a hydrocele. He said he had performed a hernia repair, and drained the hydrocele. But he never had an actual hernia.

SO… HE DIDNT NEED SURGERY AT ALL!?

WHY WASNT THIS RULED OUT?

WHAT? The we proceeded to walk into the recovery room,and met eyes with a strange teenage boy in street clothes. My whole body wanted to scream ” WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?!!” but I heard Sebastian crying so I went to him and took him from the nurse. Sebastian was screaming in pain and anxiety. The told us to get him medicine because his would ware off in a half hour.

When we got to the pediatric floor, it was very apparent we were very upset.  Every single nurse there seemed rude, neglectful, and unfriendly. We asked for his medicine, and got it an hour later…

I asked who that the strange kid was, and the only reply we have gotten was it was a nurses son dropping off keys. I asked the surgeon if he new him the next day, which he said no, and preceded to ask ” why were upset by it?” WHAT?? Why are we upset about a strange teenage kid in the recovery room right after our sons surgery!??? Because he IS OUR THREE MONTH OLD SON WHO JUST HAD SURGERY. Do we need another reason? its the most inappropriate thing that has ever happen to us in a medical field, and I’m sure some sort of privacy violation, but to ask why we were upset is just outragous. The worry of the last two hour over a surgery our son didn’t even need and then to ask why we are upset over a stranger in a sterile key-entry environment that we couldn’t go into until let in, and this kid is in there, before us?? I am still fuming from this.

Every time a nurse would wander in our room and just stare at us or say nothing. Which I know from experience it is part of training and common courtesy to state who you are when entering a hospital room.

In almost every web article, website, or medical official we talk to asks if our doctor performed a ultra-sound. well, NO he didn’t. they just jumped right into surgery. The incision is at least two inches long. Also the inch cut down into his ankle for the IV. The MD pediatrician from our office came into the hospital to see Sebastian as well, and said in all his twenty-five years only one hydrocele surgery,

The problem is Bryan is overwork. All of these employees are rushing through patients, and misdiagnosing and treating patients with such disrespect. Bryan is now offering nurses $500 gift cards to work a extra shift.

We feel robbed, mistreated, and after filing many complaints, and talking with several different people at the hospital, we have gotten no apologies, and no resolution.

In conclusion, please help yourself and your family to slow down the pace of these rushed overworked medical venues.

Our advice to other parents is: Ask questions, you may think you have asked enough… ASK MORE!!

Question everything!! Is there anything else these symptoms could mean?

Are there other options for treatment?

Slow down. Slow down these doctors who fly through the office, and you can barely tell if they are really hearing your questions, ask again if you don’t understand. If your still wondering what is really going on, because the doctors just look at you crazy when you question them.

GET A SECOND OPINION!!!!!

BEST Face Cleanser Recipe

One of the best natural recipes I have found is my facial cleanser. I have always had impossible dry skin. Many eye make-up removers would burn my eyes. I was constantly battling a dry face and supplemented with face lotion many times a day. So, after my transition to more natural products I went looking for a solution to my problem. I tried many things, but finally found the PERFECT one! It is SO easy and works better than any expensive face cleanser or eye make-up remover I have ever had. I no longer buy face lotion because my skin is clean but doesn’t dry out from a cleanser removing all my natural oils.

Recipe for Natural Facial Cleanser: 

1 cup distilled water

1 tsp (organic) olive oil

(Even when I run out of distilled water, I turn to tap water. Distilled still seems to work better.)

New to Cloth Diaper?

I would like to believe that I am not a complete addict. But I do have a love affair with cloth diapers. If you are a new mom or not-  cloth diapering is for YOU!!! Not only does it save you TONS of money, but it is kinder to your little ones bums, and way more fun for you as Mama. You may ask yourself… “FUN?” YESSS! FUN!  Fun patterns, cute designs, and variety of options there is no losing interest with the unending options of cloth diapering. Once you start, your hooked.

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To the moms who are truly thinking of going on the cloth diaper adventure, It is a blast. But I wanted to give you a few tips that I have learned along the way. I started cloth diapering our first-born, Luna Belle at six months ( She just turned Two!) and continue to cloth diaper with our one month old son Sebastian.

1. Research. But not too much because there is a lot of information and it can make your head spin! Look in your area for local cloth diaper stores (i.e. Circle Me, Lincoln, Ne) They have been a huge source of information and support.  Which leads me to SUPPORT! If your going on the cloth diaper adventure, talk with your significant other first. Next look online for other moms in your area that cloth diaper, and other social media avenues (i.e. Facebook groups, discussion boards). Find other moms/dads (but mostly moms) you can talk to! No matter how long you’ve been cloth diapering it is always good to have support and like-minded people to share your experiences and concerns with! It has saved me and restored my faith in cloth diapers when I have been at my wit’s end.

2. Explore! Explore the styles, brands, sizes, and don’t put your eggs all in one basket. There are so many major brands of cloth diapers, and they are a great starting place and reliable to fall back on. However, every baby is different and different sizes and styles will fit your little one differently then they fit a friends. Find what works for you. There are trial packs you can buy and consignment avenues that may be the greatest place to buy cloth diapers at a cheaper price before you decide which one works best for you and your family.

3. Ask Questions! Ask me questions! Ask your new cloth diaper friends! Ask your new cloth diaper community questions!